Thursday, November 6, 2014

Ask Away Friday: Remember Me?

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Foreword: (so to speak)
I recently went through a really bad break up. You know the kind where you walk around with your heart in your throat, only comforted by a pint of Ben and Jerry's in bed and the full series of Felicity on Netflix? Since this break up I haven't left the house, avoided phone calls from friends I missed, and made up a million excuses for why I was avoiding life all together.

Eventually though, I had to resurface and experience that moment that is almost miserable enough to make you want to avoid it all together.
 It's all:
 "Hey guys" <waving shyly>....
 "remember me?" <damn this is awkward>

That's where I am right now. No I didn't actually end a relationship. At least not with a single human.
What I did do is kind of break up with my blog.

I haven't posted anything in 8 months. Haven't checked stats, or finished my still under construction "About Me" page. I went from finally getting paid sponsor opportunities and free stuff... to zero. That was never what I was in this for. To be honest, I barely knew what a blog was when I started one last summer. I was looking for a way to share my crafts with friends and family who asked about them, and the deepest part of me was secretly wishing that the right person might see what I do and ask me to craft and write for them as a paid gig that could be a secondary source of income. I didn't realize that I would get sucked in. I started learning more about the art of blogging and visiting other blogs to see how something was done. While there, I'd be all like, "Oooo that is cool. How do I do that?"
Commence hours and hours of research for the smallest silly detail.

At some point I started to wonder if anyone was really reading what I wrote. I could swear up and down that I was doing this for me, but no one was commenting. Traffic would occasionally go up, but I had know idea why or how and, dammit, I wanted more!

And I got that. I was lucky enough to meet a few amazing blogger friends right off the bat. We supported each other, promoted each other, and through it all connected with each other. We all recognized what we individually had to gain from out little network, but didn't take it for granted. We formed relationships and true bonds while trying to achieve a common goal that put us all on the same path. Though I'm speaking in past tense, luckily despite my sudden break up, these friends have continued to reach out, include me, and given me the occasional pep talk. I feel guilty for not being as involved in their day to day lives, or stopping by to comment on their posts each week, but when I made the decision to take a blogging break, I was relieved. I was putting an intense amount of pressure on myself, I had things I was neglecting that needed to get done, and no time to actually live moments worth blogging about, plus I had returned to my full time job. I needed a break and to be honest, it felt great to let it go for little while. I though it would be easy to pick back up, but it wasn't and I didn't really want to.

Anyway, if you've visited my blog before you know that my usual posts are full of crafty goodness for the home, and I have a lot I want to share with you. If you're new to The PWP, it's great to meet you. I hope you'll introduce yourself and take some time to look around. Read on for the Ask Away Friday post you probably stopped by for. Back in the early stage of this awesome link up I would never miss a week and thought it was the perfect opportunity to slowly delve back in to blogging.

Thank you so much to Stacey DeHaven Gannett over at ThisMommasRamblings.com for taking me on as a partners for this week! Without further ado...


1. What’s one thing you’d rather pay someone to do than do yourself? Why?
CLEAN!! Organize too. Oh my goodness, if I could afford a cleaning crew... <sigh> I really hate cleaning, and not general house maintenance, but cleaning up after my kids and husband. It is torture because it's the same thing over and over and over. Monotony is my enemy, I have never handled it well. When I clean up the playroom at the end of the night, and come home the next day to the same mess I want to tear my hair out. It doesn't help that I spend most days trying to get my middle schoolers to clean up after themselves in an art room.

2. Do you have a favorite story from your childhood that you have read to your kids?
Hmmm...I really love The Giving Tree by Shell Silverstein. I have tried to read it to my girls, but Rue doesn't have the patience and it's not about princesses so Vi isn't totally in to it yet. I do have a bunch of Care Bears books that she like to read and that always makes me smile. I really love watching some of my favorite Disney movies with her as well and she loves all the stories about the princesses.

3. What is your fondest dream that you have yet to accomplish?
I really try to be that person who acknowledges that all dreams are achievable, but to answer this question I will have to "categorize" because I totally dream of becoming famous in some way. Having a show on HGTV or crafting and writing for them is probably my ultimate. Right up there with being able to craft and reno. my house full-time with a blog that supports- that would be pretty awesome. I want to be the next Young House Love, but more like, Older House Love. TBH though, that dream goes in the long shot category. Some dreams that are more reachable are to get my Masters in Art Education, have a gallery exhibit of my art (of course I'd have to find some time to create some art I think is worth displaying) and to get this old house updated and decorated in all it's glory.

4. What are five things that you like to do for just you?
I'd love to take a trip to Colorado to visit a friend of mine who works out there on a dude ranch. It's a great reason to go somewhere I've never been and have always wanted to visit. I would also love a whole, uninterrupted day cooped up in my attic studio working on whatever strikes my fancy. Third, a mani, pedi and wax would be cool. Hmmm...a day of fun with my girlfriends, and lastly some QT with the hubs in one of our favorite places like New Hope, PA or Baltimore.

5. What is one guilty pleasure you enjoy too much to give up?
Beer. LOL. I have a lot of guilty pleasures that are embarrassing in some way, but my love of a nice cold beer makes me feel more guilty than anything because of the complete lack of nutritional value combined with my deep love for it. My immature tv show preference is a pleasure too, but I make no apologies for loving The Vampire Diaries or Once Upon a Time, so I can't call it a guilty one ;)

6. What is one thing that blogging has taught you about yourself? 
Blogging rekindled a love of writing that I didn't realize I had. I say rekindled because I've always been a writer, but I didn't realize how much I enjoyed it because it was always overshadowed by other talents that I focused on more. I've kept diaries for years and written stories, but not until I started blogging did I realize how therapeutic writing could continue to be for me as an adult.

7. What type of books are your favorite kind to read? What is your favorite book/author?
I am all about fiction. Especially paranormal romance series. I love the Fever series by Karen Marie Moning and The Gardella Vampire Chronicles by Colleen Gleason. Ever since the Twilight craze I am hesitant to admit that, but I've been reading the genre since I was a pre-teen and never really grew out of it, even when it became popular again. 

8. I am a super music junkie...What are the top 5 songs that are rockin out your playlist?
I love music too, and have a really eclectic mix of favorites. My top 5 favorite songs right now are
Geronimo by Sheppard:


Stolen Dance by Milky Chance



Centuries by Fall Out Boy


Get Out by Clare Dunn

Love Runs Out by One Republic



9. Do you have a favorite recipe from your childhood that you now make for your family?
Uh-oh. Ha-ha. No because I don't really cook. I hate admitting that, but it's true.

10. What dessert will you go for above any else?
Any! But Ice cream is my favorite especially anything with peanut butter!

Thanks Stacey for those awesome questions! Don't forget to stop by ThisMommasRamblings.com to check out how she answered the questions I asked her, including my signature hump, dump, marry <wink, wink>


22 comments:

  1. Absolutely love your answers! Boy, I do have to agree about the blogging, it really can get overwhelming at times. I feel bad because I just cannot manage to fit in all of the commenting and reading that I dream of being able to do, because there are just not enough hours in the day. Not to mention that I am not as young as I used to be and I can't stay up like I used to. I hate the cleaning, too! LOL! Sadly my daughter is the messiest of all! LOL! I love the music! I have so many favorite books that I read as a kid, that now my kids love! Thank you so much for swapping with me and hope you have an amazing weekend!

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    1. It really does. I am determined not to let that happen this time though! Thanks again for swapping with me! I loved your answers.

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  2. I just got unbelievably excited to see a new post from you pop up in my blog roll! YAY! You are back!!!! :-)

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    1. Yay!! Thanks for the warm welcome. So happy to hear from you!!

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  3. Welcome back Meg! I was wondering if you were going to post again. I loved all of your DIY's you would share, you are so creative and talented. Also wanted to say that I love a glass of beer too, even more so in the fall : ) Looking forward to reading more from you!

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    1. It has been far too long, but hopefully I can get back in to things without all the pressure this time around! Thanks for stopping by Karen!! Looking forward to seeing what you have been up to.

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  4. Oh, I am so sorry about the breakup. I had a few of those but one was definitely Felicity style. I was heartbroken for a year. I wouldn't wish that on anyone and I'm so happy to see you back.
    Your #3 is so inspiring. I was just telling Stacey today that I daydream a lot but I generally daydream things that could happen, and sometimes they do.

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    1. Luckily it was only a blog breakup and not the real thing, but the emotional issues were there and it felt pretty intense to let this whole thing die after building it up so much. Im trying to take it all back in baby steps this time around. Thanks for stopping by Tamara!

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  5. How lovely to meet you, as I was not a part of AAF when you were there before :) I'm always happy for a DIY crafty blog because I love crafty type things. Since I have an 8th grader, I can only imagine what your days are like with a whole slew of them! (Though, he LOVES his art class, so there's that.) I look forward to seeing more from you. Welcome back!

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  6. Yay!!! So happy to have you back...missed you so much. I kinda stalked your sight here and there wondering if you had com back but now you have and all is well! :D

    I am a sorbet kinda gal that and cakes any and all cake snacks are kryptonite to me. I just love them. I even sneak and hide them from the Kiddies...LOL

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    1. Stalk away! It's feels great to get such a great welcome back! I'm really trying to get another post in before my next AAF but if that doesn't happen then I will be ok with just accepting what I can fit in week by week (at least I tell myself that now...)

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  7. I'm sorry you had to go through such a painful time, but welcome back and I hope you're stronger than ever now. *HUGS* I think it is cool that we read similar books - I love chatting about books with people :) Yes blogging is therapeutic and really helps when you can make connections with other people :)

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    1. Thank you! Luckily it was only a break up with my blog but it was still roughluckily nothing like the real thing though. I am grateful for the network of friends I have made through my blogging and I'm looking forward to forming new friendships this time around! Thanks for coming by to say hello!

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  8. I have days where I feel like taking a break from blogging. I'm trying to find a better balance, because right now I'm starting to feel like I can't go out and enjoy life too.So I'm going to start trying to post less.

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    1. Yeah it definitely seems to be something we all go through. Balance is definitely key! Hopefully I can figure out how to obtain some this time! Let me know if you have any tips! :)

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  9. Enjoyed reading your post and checking out your blog! I love the design and header. I feel the same way about blogging, it can get to be much at times. I'm excited to see your other posts and more from you since I enjoy crafts and DIY things, too I like seeing other people's work and getting inspiration from them. I'm a fan of reading the paranormal genre and watching TVD and Once Upon A Time, I'm addicted to those shows. :)

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    1. Thanks so much! Love yours too and looking forward to our swap!

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  10. I'M SO HAPPY YOU'RE BACK!!! PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE, say you'll stay awhile….
    I missed you, and I'll be honest, I was a stealth stalker peeking in to see if there was anything new here. Now, the door is open, and I'm going to walk on in ;) RIGHT?
    Trust me, I've thought about breaking-up too, it comes and it goes. The struggle is real!
    XOXO

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    1. You are more than welcome. I missed you guys!!!!!!

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  11. I love blogging myself. It's provided me some great opportunities and can't wait to see what the future looks like for my blog.

    I am with you on eating on dessert. I'm a sucker for junk.
    http://upliftingfamilies.com/askawayfriday-flash-edition/

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